So I am always preaching about focus, and how what you focus on is what you attract. Funny thing is, I didn't realize what I was focusing on and how it's been effecting me.
Lately I've been focusing on what I dont like with our world right now...chemtrails, GMO's, big brother, etc. In my "awakening" I forgot what is most important...that which you focus on expands! So, it's no surprise I've been learning A LOT about these things and getting more and more annoyed. In fact, I think I find several things daily that I can be annoyed with. Now I'm not saying ignore these things because I do believe these are some pretty big issues. But I think I need to turn it around and see the things that are right with the world. Of course that means to not buy into the "drama of the day" and to see the rainbows in the sky instead of the chemtrails. I need to put more of my mind into happiness, things that are right with the world, and getting back on track. (Last year was one of my worst career years yet). I don't want to be annoyed anymore...
Just in the last few days I've gotten jury duty, a ticket for HOLDING my cell phone on the fwy (in dead stopped traffic and I was plugging my phone on the charger at the time), too many bills/not enough income syndrome, ETC!!!! ENOUGH! Stop the world I want to get off here...LOL
I never made a new years resolution this year...so why not now? My resolution for this year is to focus on the good stuff. The bad stuff will probably continue to happen but I'm not going to choose to focus on that. I already know it's there. Instead...I am going to focus on happiness- selling my kid show Ready Time Pals, Seeing and being the compassion in others (have better relatonships with friends and family), get more acting work and making each day FUN.
So you heard it here...I'm taking my own advice and I'm going to have an awesome fun filled year!
Sunday, February 17, 2013
Thursday, February 14, 2013
Compassion
This will probably be a huge stomping ground for me this year. I think it's a biggy and something I encourage us all to relate to. (I am trying to focus on this in my life). COMPASSION.
All over the news the media is showing us all the crazies, all the drama, all the wrongs... Why not turn it around? Why did people get that way? Let's help people to NOT become that; let's encourage better behavior. Now I'm not saying to go hug a murderer or condone that sort of thing, but why not walk a mile in someone's shoes? What if that were you? "No, it couldn't be me!", you say. Sure it could. What if tomorrow, it all turned around. You got sick. You lost your job, then your house and your things. Your best friends walked away and didn't help you. You lost sight of what you truly dreamed for. Things happen in an instant and it can happen to anyone. We are all one and the same. Made up of the same "stuff". Our society has been taught to "buy into" the drama. It's all over the news. It becomes scarey and something to fear when we buy into that. Perhaps that is what the media wants. Fearful, scared people that no longer see people as people...but as something to be feared. You can take away rights pretty easily from a community who is fearful. Look at what happened after 911 in this country. (THAT is a whole other blog post)
So what happens when we become fearful and loose sight of compassion? We play the blame game, don't take accountability and give away our rights as humans. We believe that we are different than others and create one being "right" and another being "wrong". We create a gap and false hatred. We actually loose our humanity and loose sight of what is really important in life...love.
What do I mean by the blame game? This keeps us from feeling like we can "do anything" to help people or even feel compassion. Some say "Oh the president (or other person of high esteem) is against _____ (pro life, anti-guns, whatever-insert your own words here)" and then that is it. He's a bad guy. The other side are "bad guys", "wrong", "awful". So if you believe in pro-life, how many of you have gone to planned parenthood and talked to a woman getting an abortion. Really sat a minute in her shoes. Do you know why she is going to do what she is going to do? Forget what you believe from your religious teachings, but just for one minute really feel compassion and see why she is going to do it. Will her father beat her? Was she raped? You know the saying...Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one? well that's just it. For her this is right and for you this is wrong. When we learn compassion, all of a sudden we see things differently and we can help people get to a better place without creating hatred and "wrongs". And I'm sure I opened a can of worms by going the abortion route here, but this could be any "hot topic". We can insert any of them here. Whenever you feel yourself surge with annoyance for someone else or an "issue", replace that feeling with compassion and see what happens.
By buying into the drama of each situation we are going right into the path of fear and ignorance. You may as well hand over your life now. You are basically just a puppet. It is when we really embrace compassion that we can fully embrace life. I want to teach our children to be proud of their differences and those around them...for it is the differences that make us have more compassion and thus more love...
I may sound like I'm preaching and perhaps I am...but really just to myself. You can take it as you will. I just hope that more choose compassion, in these fear frenzy media days of today, than hatred and fear of those who see things differently or those who make a bad choice. You may not agree with them but you don't have to fear them or send hate. And...if you don't like what's happening...go out there and make a difference, don't just spew judgements...
All over the news the media is showing us all the crazies, all the drama, all the wrongs... Why not turn it around? Why did people get that way? Let's help people to NOT become that; let's encourage better behavior. Now I'm not saying to go hug a murderer or condone that sort of thing, but why not walk a mile in someone's shoes? What if that were you? "No, it couldn't be me!", you say. Sure it could. What if tomorrow, it all turned around. You got sick. You lost your job, then your house and your things. Your best friends walked away and didn't help you. You lost sight of what you truly dreamed for. Things happen in an instant and it can happen to anyone. We are all one and the same. Made up of the same "stuff". Our society has been taught to "buy into" the drama. It's all over the news. It becomes scarey and something to fear when we buy into that. Perhaps that is what the media wants. Fearful, scared people that no longer see people as people...but as something to be feared. You can take away rights pretty easily from a community who is fearful. Look at what happened after 911 in this country. (THAT is a whole other blog post)
So what happens when we become fearful and loose sight of compassion? We play the blame game, don't take accountability and give away our rights as humans. We believe that we are different than others and create one being "right" and another being "wrong". We create a gap and false hatred. We actually loose our humanity and loose sight of what is really important in life...love.
What do I mean by the blame game? This keeps us from feeling like we can "do anything" to help people or even feel compassion. Some say "Oh the president (or other person of high esteem) is against _____ (pro life, anti-guns, whatever-insert your own words here)" and then that is it. He's a bad guy. The other side are "bad guys", "wrong", "awful". So if you believe in pro-life, how many of you have gone to planned parenthood and talked to a woman getting an abortion. Really sat a minute in her shoes. Do you know why she is going to do what she is going to do? Forget what you believe from your religious teachings, but just for one minute really feel compassion and see why she is going to do it. Will her father beat her? Was she raped? You know the saying...Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one? well that's just it. For her this is right and for you this is wrong. When we learn compassion, all of a sudden we see things differently and we can help people get to a better place without creating hatred and "wrongs". And I'm sure I opened a can of worms by going the abortion route here, but this could be any "hot topic". We can insert any of them here. Whenever you feel yourself surge with annoyance for someone else or an "issue", replace that feeling with compassion and see what happens.
By buying into the drama of each situation we are going right into the path of fear and ignorance. You may as well hand over your life now. You are basically just a puppet. It is when we really embrace compassion that we can fully embrace life. I want to teach our children to be proud of their differences and those around them...for it is the differences that make us have more compassion and thus more love...
I may sound like I'm preaching and perhaps I am...but really just to myself. You can take it as you will. I just hope that more choose compassion, in these fear frenzy media days of today, than hatred and fear of those who see things differently or those who make a bad choice. You may not agree with them but you don't have to fear them or send hate. And...if you don't like what's happening...go out there and make a difference, don't just spew judgements...
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Connections
Today while I was standing in line at the grocery store, the bagger started a conversation with the customer ahead of me. When that customer left, the bagger looked to me and said, "That was awkward. She was the mother of my sister's ex-boyfriend." Awkward indeed. But it got me thinking about all the people that have come in and out of my life over the years. Ex's, acquaintances, business partners, neighbors, kid's parents, teachers, etc. So many people, so little time.
Being a people person I have a hard time NOT keeping in touch with everyone I've met/know but that is virtually impossible. Even with Facebook and social media (where we virtually keep in touch with everyone from elementary school friends to someone you met in a yoga class last week) virtual relationships are just not the same as getting to BE with the ones you love and spending quality time with them. The older I get, the more people I've accumulated in my life that I now feel I must keep in touch with and feel bad when I haven't seen them for long periods of time. Sometimes I think about having parties just to have everyone over at the same time. Now that my husband and I have children, it's harder to keep up with our relationships. Our kids have sports and dance classes and school events. We spend our time carting them around and relationship "up-keep" ends up looking like texts and voicemails on the run! I guess facebook isn't as bad as I thought in that respect.
I long for girl trips (been trying to schedule THAT for a few years now), reunions, and date nights. There really just isn't enough time. So what's a people person to do? I wish I had the answer. Sometimes I get reminiscent and think about days long by...a guy I dated in high school, or a girlfriend I had in college. What happened to my friends I did theater with? Wouldn't it be fun to have a reunion with everyone from my old sketch comedy group?
Maybe it's a good thing we loose touch with certain people. We all grow and evolve and the people we meet at different places in our lives reflect where we are at that time. Maybe it's good for people to remember you as they did. (or not?!) That way, we can become the people we want to be and not look back in our shadow of what we were?
Still, there's still a part of me that longs to "keep it all together". Be the social butterfly that can see all my friend's performances, watch my kid's games and recitals and still find time to have date night with my husband and take that girl's trip to wine country...Hey, a girl can dream right?!
How do you keep up with all your friends, family and everyone else in between?
Being a people person I have a hard time NOT keeping in touch with everyone I've met/know but that is virtually impossible. Even with Facebook and social media (where we virtually keep in touch with everyone from elementary school friends to someone you met in a yoga class last week) virtual relationships are just not the same as getting to BE with the ones you love and spending quality time with them. The older I get, the more people I've accumulated in my life that I now feel I must keep in touch with and feel bad when I haven't seen them for long periods of time. Sometimes I think about having parties just to have everyone over at the same time. Now that my husband and I have children, it's harder to keep up with our relationships. Our kids have sports and dance classes and school events. We spend our time carting them around and relationship "up-keep" ends up looking like texts and voicemails on the run! I guess facebook isn't as bad as I thought in that respect.
I long for girl trips (been trying to schedule THAT for a few years now), reunions, and date nights. There really just isn't enough time. So what's a people person to do? I wish I had the answer. Sometimes I get reminiscent and think about days long by...a guy I dated in high school, or a girlfriend I had in college. What happened to my friends I did theater with? Wouldn't it be fun to have a reunion with everyone from my old sketch comedy group?
Maybe it's a good thing we loose touch with certain people. We all grow and evolve and the people we meet at different places in our lives reflect where we are at that time. Maybe it's good for people to remember you as they did. (or not?!) That way, we can become the people we want to be and not look back in our shadow of what we were?
Still, there's still a part of me that longs to "keep it all together". Be the social butterfly that can see all my friend's performances, watch my kid's games and recitals and still find time to have date night with my husband and take that girl's trip to wine country...Hey, a girl can dream right?!
How do you keep up with all your friends, family and everyone else in between?
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